Wednesday, August 24, 2011

There are no accidents....

Each day I marvel at the people that I am in contact with and the situations that might have brought us together. Each interaction is like an introduction to a new friend.  Even so-called "old" friends are met with a fresh perspective at each interaction. As we progress through our lives, our days, and our moments, we are all growing and changing.  Even if that change is subtle, we are changing.

Each moment brings with it a new awareness of our own ability to make decisions and take actions.  Those decisions are based upon cumulative experiences and intuition.  So, if every moment allows us to grow, then the next time we see a good friend, we are a slightly different person.  Perhaps a bit more refined in our thinking.  Perhaps a bit more cynical.  Either way, to an observant friend, we are someone slightly new to meet.

Likewise, we gain a new insight with each interaction we have.  That insight might be a lesson that we keep getting presented with, or it might simply be an example of a purely joyful moment.  Either way, I believe that there are no accidental encounters or relationships. Even relationships that end poorly (i.e. divorce or broken friendships) are part of our lives for a reason. These types of relationships help us to better trust and love ourselves at some point.  Once we go through the suffering phase of the relationship and enter into the healing phase, we are apt to recognize our own strengths and abilities.  We can then take those lessons and apply them to current, and future, relationships to avoid a recurrence of the poorly experienced one.

It goes without saying that our joyful relationships provide us with much learning as well.  These types of encounters are ones we seek to replicate with others.

Our challenge, as maturing  individuals, is to remain open to the possibility that each interaction we have during the day has a purpose for us; that is contains a "teachable" moment that is critical to our growth at that moment.  It is by holding this challenge in your heart that you will be able to endure less-than-pleasant people and carry the joy from the better interactions.  There are no accidents.  We are meant to learn from each experience, and be there for others to learn from.  So be alert, grateful and enjoy the journey.


Michelle H.



  1. I firmly believe that we are what we live and that what we experience during our lives make us who we are. If it is in ones mind to only see negative outcomes in everything, there can be only negative energy emitted by them to anyone around them. What a sad way to live.
    Personally, I am a completely different person than I was twenty years ago. I like the person I am today. Changing my life by meeting good people at college, learning to have some fun and looking at life from a different prospective than my immediate family has helped me to experience life and see people from a different prospective. It is easy to fall into the rut of life. It is exciting to live life instead of just existing in the world.
    Love your writing and love you Michelle!
    Joann T.

  2. I could not agree more. The act of taking those experiences (good and bad) and allowing them to help uncover the "real" you, is a wonderful thing. Even the bad experiences will eventually bring joy, as they will shine the light on the events that are better (bringing light and energy), and not to be overlooked. Amazing growth is seen by internalizing these experiences. Amazing growth is also seen by sharing them with others who otherwise might get stuck in their own negative states. Keep shining and keep living. Love you....


    Michelle H.


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